Sorry I'm Late, I Didn't Want to Come

Sorry I'm Late, I Didn't Want to Come

One Introvert's Year of Saying Yes

Book - 2019
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"What would happen if a shy introvert lived like a gregarious extrovert for one year? If she knowingly and willingly put herself in perilous social situations that she'd normally avoid at all costs? Writer Jessica Pan intends to find out. With the help of various extrovert mentors, Jessica sets up a series of personal challenges (talk to strangers, perform stand-up comedy, host a dinner party, travel alone, make friends on the road, and much, much worse) to explore whether living like an extrovert can teach her lessons that might improve the quality of her life. Chronicling the author's hilarious and painful year of misadventures, this book explores what happens when one introvert fights her natural tendencies, takes the plunge, and tries (and sometimes fails) to be a little bit braver."--Provided by publisher.
Publisher: Kansas City, Missouri : Andrews McMeel, [2019]
Copyright Date: ©2019
ISBN: 9781449499235
Characteristics: xvi, 255 pages ; 23 cm


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Apr 02, 2021

A really interesting read, but it definitely hits differently during the pandemic era. As an extrovert, I felt insanely jealous of the author when she described going out, going to stand-up, meeting friends for coffee, and hosting parties. In addition, this is definitely a book aimed at DINKs and other yuppies - it's hard to live experimentally if you're barely scraping by, like a lot of millennials. However, it is well-written and gives people who are struggling with forming new friendships some good ideas and food for thought - I was particularly struck by the idea that "Nobody waves, but everyone waves back."

Mar 29, 2021

So much fun to read. Laughed until I cried at some passages. Part self-help for stepping out of your comfort zone but full on humor to make you giggle at yourself and at the author's antics and musings.

Jan 15, 2021

Delightful - something I wanted immediately to get into the hands of several of my favorite introverts.

PimaLib_NormS Jul 10, 2020

Attention: Introverts That Wish They Were More Extroverted! I would like to suggest a book for your reading pleasure. “Sorry I’m Late, I Didn’t Want to Come: One Introvert’s Year of Saying Yes” by Jessica Pan is the author’s story of life as an introvert who was unhappy with being closed off to the world. So, she boldly decided to do something about it. Many amongst us do not have the courage to even attempt such radical change. But, Jessica Pan, oh, she has courage by the bucketload. She came to the realization that if her life was going to change, she had to face down her fears of interacting with people. She gave herself a year to try new and scary things, such as initiating conversations with total strangers, doing 5 minutes of standup at a comedy club, and hosting a dinner party. Takes a lot of guts to do that which most frightens you. It is important to note that “Sorry I’m Late, I Didn’t Want to Come” does not portray introverts as damaged somehow. Not all introverts are praying for release from a personal introverted hell. Not everyone thinks dinner parties and game nights and nightclubs are big fun, and it is okay to enjoy keeping to yourself. Jessica Pan wrote this book to share her unique experience, and to be an example to those introverts that long to be more outgoing. It is not presented as a cure for introversion. Because it’s not a disease, you know.

Apr 24, 2020

Cute, kind of enjoyable, easy to read. But after reading Shonda Rimes’ “The Year of Yes” this seemed like a college assignment where you’re supposed to write your own version of your favorite book, and hers was Shonda’s.

Easy to read, sort of helpful, useful I guess?

Gina_Vee Apr 10, 2020

It's not the best book to grow an appreciation for your introversion, but it's a great book if you struggle with your introversion.

Jan 06, 2020

In this laugh-out-loud memoir, Pan shares her year trying to be an extrovert. Her tactics included smiling at strangers, public speaking, online friends dating, networking, and stand-up comedy. Hosting a dinner party was her coup de grace. If you've ever crossed the street to avoid talking to someone you know or let the phone ring or passively aggressively RSVP'd, this is the book for you. I have a particular soft spot for the author as she's also a fan of Come Dine with Me, the British TV show that puts four strangers together to each host a dinner party for one week. Between often bad food and surreptitious snooping through the host's possessions, this show is an introvert's nightmare. Not even the chance of winning 100 pounds could overcome the obstacles for some guests.

JCLBrittanyC Nov 01, 2019

The author coins it as a reflection of her “year of saying yes,” in order to get out of her
introverted ways. Jessica identifies as a “shintrovert,” or shy introvert which she
feels has hindered her ability to find further happiness in her life. Though I would not coin
myself as a “shintrovert,” I found Jessica’s experience so honest and relatable.
She brings in a multitude of experts to help her navigate her personal
challenges, which also helps readers learn so much, even if their experience is
not the same as Jessica’s. If you are looking for a light non-fiction read that will
have you laughing until the end, check this one out for sure!

JCLHeatherM Oct 16, 2019

A fantastic and well researched read that encourages intrepid introverts (I consider myself a member of this category) to expand their horizons in ways that are comfortable for them (i.e. attending local networking events, being the first person to greet someone on the public bus, or even hosting a dinner party).

JCLHeatherC Aug 12, 2019

As a shy introvert myself, this book resonated with me. I found myself actively engaging with strangers in situations where I would normally prefer to blend in or disappear. I'm not going to join an improv group or try my hand at stand up comedy any time soon but it is nice to reach out in person when so much of our communications seem to come from electronic devices these days. Great read.

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Jan 06, 2020

"Typically, introverts like to be prepared, and I'm no exception. I anticipate all the likely negative outcomes in a scenario and then come up with a potential solution, not matter how outlandish. I like knowing what to expect, even for the simplest of things."

Jan 06, 2020

"I now know that the only way for real personal connections to occur is to go out there and do the best I can, with Richard's charisma advice fresh in my mind (ask questions, give meaningful responses, reinforce emotion).


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