Boundary Setting Tips:
Don't forget: Boundaries include saying what we want, enjoy, and like, too - not only what doesn't feel good.
If we feel our boundary collapsing, write a reminder letter to ourselves about how it feels when we let someone do what our boundary concerns. Write the letter when the feelings are fresh. When we're tempted to give in, read the letter. It may stop euphoric recall and help us remember how much that behavior hurts.
If a boundary involves people doing something differently, be specific about what needs changing. Then, everyone involved can clearly tell if and when the boundary is met.